Lisa Allred comes to SAS with a long history of working with families throughout the lifespan. After receiving her undergraduate degree at Wake Forest Universtity and her Masters in Social Work from UNC-CH, her career began as a child therapist focusing on parenting, anxiety and trauma. She then moved into college counseling where she emphasized student wellness and balance.
This is an issue I hear about from parents all of the time. Sometimes the disagreements are small, and sometimes they are very significant. As your child ages, the stakes become even higher when parents can't get on the same page. Here are a few common ways that parents find themselves
Today's blog is by Jenny Bradley of Triangle Smart Divorce in Cary, NC. We are so appreciative of our friends in the community who gracously share their knowledge and expertise. Names matter. Names are part of our identity. Many cultures have naming ceremonies. What if you feel like the name you
This blog is the 3rd in our series on separation by Lisa Angel of Rosen Law Firm. Can the court order a separation? Yes, and this is done via a divorce from bed and board which is a court-ordered separation of the parties. The parties remain married until an absolute
This is probably one of the most commonly asked questions…When can I start dating after I separate from my spouse? This is tricky for many reasons. There are two different scenarios in which we must examine. 1) The person you want to date now was someone you had a relationship
This is a popular topic and certainly something that most parents have to grapple with eventually. Often times I hear the discussion framed as “to monitor or not to monitor” and I want to encourage you to think about your child’s safety online in much broader ways. Monitoring is one
Many people are often confused on how to file for separation in North Carolina. Every state has different laws related to separation. This article is intended to make the process of legal separation easier to understand for NC residents. A couple becomes legally separated on the date that a husband and wife move into separate residences
I have been meeting with lots of parents recently to discuss their parenting challenges. The converstaion always comes aorund to some simple techniques they can use to help their children deal with frustration. When my child was 3, I made up and taught her these simple steps: 1 deep breath
Today's blog is written by Paige Orlandi-Holmes, a Licensed Therapist providing mental health counseling services at Counseling Professionals PLLC, a private practice with offices in Cary and North Raleigh. The Work/Life Team is so thankful when therapists from the community volunteer to share their expertise with our employees and
This month I have been holding a series of "coffee breaks" on campus to meet with parents and discuss strategies for busy families. The following is a list of tips I pulled together. Daily Organization ☐ Basket by door for each family member to keep things that need to go
I recently heard a parent say that the only day better than the day that the kids get out of school for break is the day they go back. As parents, we long for the relaxed weekends free of projects and the lazy evenings at the pool. But when school
June is PRIDE month and there are lots of cool events at SAS and in the community that you can attend to celebrate and learn and have fun. In this blog I am going to share some tips on being an ally-- not just in June, but all year round.
Chances are that sometime in your life you have been hurt by gossip. We probably all agree that gossip is wrong. It spreads negativity in our workplaces and social groups. It is designed to make someone else look bad and to isolate them from the group. It encourages people to
Each week in February, your Work/Life team has invited therapists and dating professionals in the community to respond to questions about relationships. For this third blog in the series, we asked our experts… How do you authentically share your sexuality in a relationship? Kate Freiman-Fox, Ph.D. Matchmaking, Date and
Each week in February, your Work/Life team has invited therapists and dating professionals in the community to respond to questions about relationships. For our second blog in this series, we asked our experts... How do you prepare your children to have authentic romantic relationships? Kate Freiman-Fox, Ph.D. Matchmaking, Date and
Each week in February, your Work/Life team has invited therapists and dating professionals in the community to respond to questions about relationships. To kick off this series, we asked our experts… How do you keep from losing yourself in a relationship—new or longstanding? Kate Freiman-Fox, Ph.D. Matchmaking, Date and Relationship
As promised in my blog, Deciding to Adopt, I will be sharing 4 podcasts about adoption that I recorded with Darius Moore and Alex Kelly with the Children's Home Society of NC. Here are the first two on "Becoming a Foster Parent" and "Fostering to Adoption". On January 18th
In my blog, Deciding to Adopt, I mentioned sharing 4 podcasts about adoption that I recorded with Darius Moore and Alex Kelly with the Children's Home Society of NC. Here are the second two podcasts on "Adopting in NC" and "Cross-cultural Fostering and Adoption". Adopting in NC Cross-cultural Fostering and
Are you thinking about adoption? Congratulations! Here are some questions to ask yourself as you begin this journey, particularly if you don't have any experience raising children. The following are just a few of many considerations. How will your personality blend with parenting? How well do you (and if you have
Before the Thanksgiving holiday break, I shared a graphic with our parent listserv at SAS from 11th Principle: Consent!. This graphic urges parents not to force their kids to hug relatives (or anyone) as a way to teach body safety and the concept of consent. I received so many emails
As parents, sometimes we barely have time to eat, much less read books or listen to hour long seminars on parenting. In this 3 Minute Parenting Tip, you will learn about 3 important strategies to make your rewards or consequences work; no matter the age of your child.
This is a guest blog by Hayden Dawes, LCSW, LCAS-A, as part of the Work/Life February Relationships Series. We offer our sincere thanks to Hayden for volunteering to contribute! As we head into Valentine's week of 2018, I am struck at the differences as to how children and adults typically celebrate
Next week I am offering a lunch-and-learn called "Successfully Single: In and out of relationships", but I think I should have titled it "Attractiveness and Self-investment". I am not sure how many people want to be "successfully single", particularly this month when our collective attention is focused on love and
This is a guest blog by Shelly Hummel, LMFT and Carole Cullen, LMFT as part of the Work/Life February Relationships Series. We offer our sincere thanks to Shelley and Carole for volunteering to contribute! Jennifer and Dave have been married for 3 years. “We have a huge argument every December
Sometimes we social worker types in Work/Life forget that other people don't use phrases like "love languages" with the same ease that the typical SAS employee might talk about "data-driven customer experience." In Work/Life we are kicking off a February series on relationships, so I wanted to take a moment to tell
Happy New Year from your Work/Life Team! Lisa here. I don’t really do “resolutions” in January, but I have set an “intention” before and loved the way I was able to focus my thoughts and behaviors around it. Part of why an intention works better than resolutions for me is
Driving to work today I was thinking about the "funk" that has descended upon me over the last few weeks. Shorter days and less light? Dry skin and a stuffy nose? Old and cranky? Maybe all of those are true, but as I reflect, I realize it happens every year
I don't have a big vacation planned this summer. Don't feel sorry for me... I am going to Germany for a week in October and on Friday I leave for my second weekend at the beach. I have recently been reading about what makes a vacation "restorative". There is some cool
I am having a rough spring. My allergies are awful, really dreadful. I got sick and couldn't knock it for months. I injured my hip flexor in December and on some days in Jan, Feb, and March it hurt to even stand still much less exercise. And did I mention I am 50? I
As a single mom of 10 years, I have vacillated back and forth from “There is no evening that I wouldn’t rather take a bath than go on a date” to “ok, this might be fun.” Mostly, thinking about dating as a single parent just makes me tired. Whether you
In our Work/Life Relationship series we are trying to offer something for everyone. I thought a light-hearted blog of funny dating stories from LGBTQ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning) teens would be a good addition. This year W/L will be doing more educational offerings around parenting LGBTQ kids and
