I’m not ok and that is ok. One thing that I have learned from doing seminars on parenting with SAS employees across the globe this year is that none of us, no matter what country we live in or what language we speak, are ok. We have moments when we
I’m not ok and that is ok. One thing that I have learned from doing seminars on parenting with SAS employees across the globe this year is that none of us, no matter what country we live in or what language we speak, are ok. We have moments when we
One irony during this pandemic is that single people wish they were partnered and partnered people wish they were single. Today’s blog post is for the partnered people out there who are struggling with the increased stress and togetherness during this pandemic. I don’t need to tell you what
Last week I read an article that suggested writing a “done” list at the end of each day before identifying the 2-3 priority “to do” items for tomorrow. Ok, I’ll bite. Over the last several months I have been trying all sorts of organization and efficiency habits, so I decided
Recently, Dana and I had the opportunity to spend an hour with our HCC staff talking about managing stress and coping with change. We were grateful for the time to support our SAS Healthcare Heroes. We pulled together such great content that I want everyone to have access to it,
Nine months… that is how long some of us have been working from home with our spouse, managing the economic stress of the pandemic, homeschooling children, worrying about family members, social isolation and re-negotiating household roles. It is no wonder that people are wondering if their relationship will last. Whether
This is a repost of a blog I wrote early in the pandemic. It is even more relevant now and I hope it will be encouraging and comforting to all of you exhausted parents out there. As I sit down to write this blog, I really wish I had "the
This blog is reposted from March 2015. Many of our kids are dealing with high levels of anxiety related to the pandemic and online school so it seems like a good time to re-post it. I recently read an article I loved on how to explain anxiety to children. Even
Today’s blog post links to 3 podcasts recorded with Dr. Shanun Kunnavatana, the Clinical Director of Easterseals UCP Autism Services. Dr. Kunnavatana graciously joined me for 3 conversations about children with Autism (linked below). The first is about Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA), a therapeutic intervention. The second is about Managing Challenging
Lately, every time I talk to Natalie on the phone, I find myself walking outside to weed my garden. I weed with one hand and hold the phone with the other and sit in the dirt and enjoy the sun. It occurred to me today that weeding was a metaphor
Our children need us to comfort them but also to be honest with them right now. Comforting your child is where you are likely the most secure. You have been doing it since those first sleepless nights after they were born. The honesty is much harder. The honest conversation you
June is PRIDE month. Even before I joined the leadership team for the SAS PRIDE Employee Inclusion Group, I always used my Work/Life blog in June to write about LGBTQ youth and how we can support them. This year I struggle to find words that are adequate to educate,
This is an issue I hear about from parents all of the time. Sometimes the disagreements are small, and sometimes they are very significant. As your child ages, the stakes become even higher when parents can't get on the same page. Here are a few common ways that parents find themselves
Today's blog is by Jenny Bradley of Triangle Smart Divorce in Cary, NC. We are so appreciative of our friends in the community who gracously share their knowledge and expertise. Names matter. Names are part of our identity. Many cultures have naming ceremonies. What if you feel like the name you
This blog is the 3rd in our series on separation by Lisa Angel of Rosen Law Firm. Can the court order a separation? Yes, and this is done via a divorce from bed and board which is a court-ordered separation of the parties. The parties remain married until an absolute
This is probably one of the most commonly asked questions…When can I start dating after I separate from my spouse? This is tricky for many reasons. There are two different scenarios in which we must examine. 1) The person you want to date now was someone you had a relationship
This is a popular topic and certainly something that most parents have to grapple with eventually. Often times I hear the discussion framed as “to monitor or not to monitor” and I want to encourage you to think about your child’s safety online in much broader ways. Monitoring is one
Many people are often confused on how to file for separation in North Carolina. Every state has different laws related to separation. This article is intended to make the process of legal separation easier to understand for NC residents. A couple becomes legally separated on the date that a husband and wife move into separate residences
I have been meeting with lots of parents recently to discuss their parenting challenges. The converstaion always comes aorund to some simple techniques they can use to help their children deal with frustration. When my child was 3, I made up and taught her these simple steps: 1 deep breath
Today's blog is written by Paige Orlandi-Holmes, a Licensed Therapist providing mental health counseling services at Counseling Professionals PLLC, a private practice with offices in Cary and North Raleigh. The Work/Life Team is so thankful when therapists from the community volunteer to share their expertise with our employees and
This month I have been holding a series of "coffee breaks" on campus to meet with parents and discuss strategies for busy families. The following is a list of tips I pulled together. Daily Organization ☐ Basket by door for each family member to keep things that need to go
I recently heard a parent say that the only day better than the day that the kids get out of school for break is the day they go back. As parents, we long for the relaxed weekends free of projects and the lazy evenings at the pool. But when school
June is PRIDE month and there are lots of cool events at SAS and in the community that you can attend to celebrate and learn and have fun. In this blog I am going to share some tips on being an ally-- not just in June, but all year round.
Chances are that sometime in your life you have been hurt by gossip. We probably all agree that gossip is wrong. It spreads negativity in our workplaces and social groups. It is designed to make someone else look bad and to isolate them from the group. It encourages people to
Each week in February, your Work/Life team has invited therapists and dating professionals in the community to respond to questions about relationships. For this third blog in the series, we asked our experts… How do you authentically share your sexuality in a relationship? Kate Freiman-Fox, Ph.D. Matchmaking, Date and
Each week in February, your Work/Life team has invited therapists and dating professionals in the community to respond to questions about relationships. For our second blog in this series, we asked our experts... How do you prepare your children to have authentic romantic relationships? Kate Freiman-Fox, Ph.D. Matchmaking, Date and
Each week in February, your Work/Life team has invited therapists and dating professionals in the community to respond to questions about relationships. To kick off this series, we asked our experts… How do you keep from losing yourself in a relationship—new or longstanding? Kate Freiman-Fox, Ph.D. Matchmaking, Date and Relationship
As promised in my blog, Deciding to Adopt, I will be sharing 4 podcasts about adoption that I recorded with Darius Moore and Alex Kelly with the Children's Home Society of NC. Here are the first two on "Becoming a Foster Parent" and "Fostering to Adoption". On January 18th
In my blog, Deciding to Adopt, I mentioned sharing 4 podcasts about adoption that I recorded with Darius Moore and Alex Kelly with the Children's Home Society of NC. Here are the second two podcasts on "Adopting in NC" and "Cross-cultural Fostering and Adoption". Adopting in NC Cross-cultural Fostering and
Are you thinking about adoption? Congratulations! Here are some questions to ask yourself as you begin this journey, particularly if you don't have any experience raising children. The following are just a few of many considerations. How will your personality blend with parenting? How well do you (and if you have
Before the Thanksgiving holiday break, I shared a graphic with our parent listserv at SAS from 11th Principle: Consent!. This graphic urges parents not to force their kids to hug relatives (or anyone) as a way to teach body safety and the concept of consent. I received so many emails