I recently heard a parent say that the only day better than the day that the kids get out of school for break is the day they go back. As parents, we long for the relaxed weekends free of projects and the lazy evenings at the pool. But when school break starts, we end up constantly referreeing kids who seem not to be able to get along for even 5 minutes.
Have you ever taken a vacation with a family you love seeing once or twice a month only to have them get on your last nerve? The more you spend time together, the more potential there is for irritation and your kids are the same. You can choose not to vacation with the other family, but your kids are stuck together for better (and there are lots of upsides to having a sibling) or worse.
Here are some ideas to tame the squabble.
1- Divide and conquer. Kids love alone time with a parent. Every activity doesn't have to be a family activity.
2- Encourage activities that will be fun but with little interaction. For example, watching a funny movie together. They can joke later about the movie without having to get along during it.
3- Focus on the solution. When both parties come to you with a grievance, encourage them to brainstorm the solution rather than hash out the play by play.
4- Think twice about throwing the sleeping and eating routine out the window. When I ask parents what happens before poor behavior, it almost always starts with a tired or hungry child.
5- Alone time is good every day. Being in a different part of the house doing something creative or while they are having screen time is a great way to build separation into your routine.
6- Get outside. More exercise and fresh air helps just about everything. Have you ever noticed how after a day on the beach they are too tired to argue?
7- Let them work it out themselves... UNLESS someone is getting physcially hurt. It isn't ok for an older, smarter, bigger sibling to beat up (physically or verbally) on a younger sibling. If that line is crossed, adults need to intervene.
What are your tips for decreasing sibling rivalry on school breaks? I would love to hear!