Sayings Uttered by our Parental Units


I recently read an article by a parent coach I admire about phrases she has used frequently over the years with her daughter. Here’s a snippet:

"My daughter mouthed the words as I began to say them, "Don’t decide how things are going to be later." She has heard this phrase from time-to-time–a mantra of sorts that effectively shifts her from deciding in the present how poorly she might do on a test next week, or how tough an opponent might be on the court a few days from now….The phrase has facilitated discussions about action steps that she might take now, instead of solely forecasting a future of doom and gloom.  I have also heard myself say on more than one occasion, "Thinking the worst doesn’t usually get you any closer to how you want things to be," knowing that a negative train of thought often serves to increase stress and immobilize positive action."Kay Kimball Gruder

I began to think about the sayings and phrases that had permeated and flavored my life…

Sometimes when I was in a bad mood coming home from school, my mom would look at me and say, "Who licked the red off your candy?" I couldn’t help but smile in the midst of the unhappy drama of my life.

When I left for college (in the dark ages before e-mail and cell phones), my Dad would send a letter each week always signing off with the following sentiment: "Keep your nose to the grindstone, but don’t let it ruin your profile."

When my boys were growing up, I uttered the following phrase quite frequently when we found ourselves overwhelmed with activities and opportunities: "Less is more."

Now that my own children have grown into adults and the worries I have about and for them have become fewer but larger, I often glance at the index card taped to my bathroom mirror with a quote by Winston Churchill:

"When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened."

These sayings have provided humor and perspective when I needed it the most.

How about you?  Would you be willing to share some of your favorite sayings that have guided you along the way?


About Author

Page Cvelich

College/Teen Program Manager

Page Cvelich has brought a wealth of knowledge to the Work/Life Center from prior experience as a high school guidance counselor and parent education coordinator. Page has been responsible for setting up a high school college and career center, designing a career exploration program for teens and serving as a counselor at a backpacking camp in the Rockies. In her role as Teen/College Program Manager, Page enjoys interacting with small groups of parents and teens, as well as consulting one-on-one with parents and referring them to resources so that they are better able to provide the support and encouragement their kids need.

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