My mother-in-law lived with us for 6 years, and then we felt she had to go into a nursing home, Her sisters said that they didn't think that she was that bad, but they were not able to help me, of course. I responded that if I put her in too soon that I was the bad guy, and if I waited until she got hurt that I was the bad guy, so I was choosing to keep her safe, since I was the "bad guy" no matter what.