One of the best and most effective ways parents can help their children be less perfectionistic is to be less perfectionistic themselves. …The parents that can speak openly about their disappointments and short-comings in a non-defensive and problem-solving focused manner provide great modeling for their children. It’s also important that parents help their children remember the big picture. Kids need to know that one failure is not a disaster and that they are more than their success or failure at one goal.
Kathryn Byars, PhD, is a licensed psychologist and co-owner of the Triangle Area Psychology Clinic also know as the TAP Clinic. Dr. Byars' has vast training in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT), but she is most passionate about working with individuals struggling with perfectionism and shame. Check out her bio for more information about Dr. Byars' expertise.
Resources:
TAP Clinic: https://www.tapclinicnc.com/
Articles/Blogs/Talks: https://karenbluth.com/articlesblogsandtalks
Work/Life Library:
- When Perfect Isn't Good Enough: Strategies for coping with perfectionism
- The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook
- Self-Compassion: Stop beating yourself up and leave insecurity behind
- The Gifts of Imperfection: Let go of who you think you're supposed to be and embrace who you are
