1,2,3 Technique for kids (and their parents)

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Happy brother and sister using digital tablet in back seat of car

This summer I have been eyeballs deep in creating content for parenting classes. I LOVE talking about parenting and have had a lot of fun creating these classes. Coming up...
In September, I am releasing a 6 week class (on demand) for parents of children with ADHD. Also in September, I am offering a 4-week class for Parents of Preschoolers. (It will meet in-person in Bldg W.)
In October, I am offering a 4-week class for Parents of Young Children. (It will also meet in-person in Bldg W.)

As I have been preparing, I remembered something that I made up and taught my daughter when she was a preschooler. Yesterday, it popped into my head at a moment I was particularly irritated and it occured to me that this technique is as valuable for an adult as it is for a child.

Here it is:
1 deep breath
2 feet walking
3 cool thoughts

As a child therapist trained in cognitive behavioral therapy, I wanted to teach her some techniques to begin learning to regulate her emotions but also make them easy for her to remember. I taught her when she was calm and we practiced. First, she would take one deep breath. Second, she would use her two feet to walk away from the situation that was frustrating her. Third, she would think 3 cool thoughts. Cool thoughts are thoughts that help you calm down. An example of a cool thought for a child is "when my cousin takes my toy, I can ask an adult for help." An example of a cool thought for an adult is "If I take a quick walk I can come back to this frustrating task with fresh eyes." Thinking cool thoughts takes some practice, but even small children can get the hang of it.

One of the best things about it was that I could remind or "cue" her without saying a word. It was a like a secret signal we had. If I saw her getting frustrated, I would smile in encouragement and hold up one, two, then three fingers. It was a way I could remind her without embarrassing her.

So try it with your kids, and try it yourself. I can speak from personal experience, it works for both!

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Lisa Allred

Work Life Program Manager

Lisa Allred comes to SAS with a long history of working with families throughout the lifespan. After receiving her undergraduate degree at Wake Forest Universtity and her Masters in Social Work from UNC-CH, her career began as a child therapist focusing on parenting, anxiety and trauma. She then moved into college counseling where she emphasized student wellness and balance.

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